Sex seems to be something wonderful. Birds do it. Bees do it. Adults do it. Films and TV and DVDs are full of juicy images of people doing it. But adults wag their fingers at teenagers and say, "don't do it." Is it any wonder that teenagers are confused?
The human body is ready for sex by the time a teenager reaches the age of 14. The hormones are ready for it. The bodily juices and fluids are ready. The sper-matozoa and the ova are ready. Some teenagers hae already tried it and seem to enjoy it. but is the teenager really ready for it physically, mentally and socially? What is premarital sex? It is sexual intercourse before marriage. But why the embargo on premarital sex? Why is premarital sex not good for a teenager? The fact is, premarital sex is not good for you whether you are a teenager or not. Sexual intercourse is an important part of marriage. Some see it as the glue that holds a marriage together.
Perhaps an exaggeration
But we cannot talk about sex and marriage without talking about love. Not the cheap imitation love of infatuation which says, "I will love you as long as you are nice to me", but a mature love that says, "I will serve you with all my heart and mind and soul, no matter what." Place sexual intimacy in a marriage with mature love, and you have a love which is a many-splendoured thing. The availability of premarital sex will remove much of the desire to get married, and all the responsibility that comes with getting married. Some girls think: "If I let him have sex with me he will love me forever." Wrong! So many girls have been deceived this way. Don't let yourself be deceived in the same way. If your boyfriend truly loves you, he should wait till you get married to each other before having sex. When you experiment with premarital sex, you not only risk getting pregnant, you also increase your chances of contracting sexually transmitted diseases such as AIDS, gonorrhoea, chlamydia and syphilis, over and above having to struggle with the loss of your honour and self-esteem.
So do yourselves a favour. Say "No" to premarital sex
Learn responsible dating behavior. Explore each other's personalities and minds rather than each other's private parts. Plenty of time for that after you are married. Plan your dates wisely. Do not get caught in dark, lonely places with nothing else to do. Do not get yourself caught in a bedroom or a hotel room, just the two of you. A sure recipe for disaster. Do not wait till the last moment to change your mind. Say "No" before any hanky-panky begins. Do not go out with anyone who will not respect you or your wishes not to have premarital sex. If you avoid premarital sex, you protect your body, your self-esteem and your virginity. Virginity and chastity and sexual purity are good ideals to follow till you are married. Thereafter, adhere to the ideals of commitment and fidelity. For both men and women, husband and wife.
Say "No" to premarital sex!
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