The period right after a break-up counts as one of the most miserable experiences. How can you make sure that your world doesn't come to an end?There's a way to re-define your life goals and do some self-discovery, according to Issues For Girls & Boys...
Let's be very honest here. Separation is sad. In fact, it's totally horrible That's why you should go ahead and cry as loud as you want, yell and even pull your hair out (ok, maybe just a few strands). As babies, we cried when we were sad and laughed when we were happy. It's a healthy way of coping with all that life has thrown at us. In truth, denying your own feelings only serves to prolong the healing process. You can't get over the hurt unless you acknowledge it. So face the truth that you have been unmercifully dumped and let down by someone you love. Or perhaps you were the one who chose to let it go, and it hurt you too. Whatever it is, you need to know that you are feeling really bad from emotional trauma. It's a bit like treating a deep cut on your knee; it can only heal when you admit that you have a gash that needs medical attention.
Say No To Rebounds
It is awful to be single again after having been identified as one half of a couple. You feel like you have been pushed back into an unfamiliar environment with a part of you missing. Everyone is staring at you strangely and everyone seems to know your plight. Well-meaning friends may try to fix you up with someone new, while former admirers may move in quickly on you. It's good to widen your social circle and blend into single-dom again. But be careful not to fall into the trap of love on th rebound. It's all too easy to just grab someone else to fill up the void left by Formerly Known As The One, But allow yourself some time to cool off. Using someone to put up appearances or show off to your ex could lead you to hurt an innocent party because you don't really have any feelings for that person.
So give yourself at least 6 months to put the past relationship behind you. It's ok to meet other people and date, but keep things casual and do not commit yourself to anyone yet. Always start off as friends and try to go out with him or her together with a group of friends. If you feel ready to go on a solo date, take the time to find out more about the person's interests, character and hobbies. Take things slow, as there is no real hurry to get yourself attached again.
Reinvent Yourself
Get rid of things you don't like, and do things that you have always wanted to. With a lot more time and space, post-breakup is the best time to enhance your knowledge and skills. Be nice to yourself and pursue long-forgotten dreams.
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