Gals spend hours in front of the mirror just to look "natural". Yet a guy who walks past with a week-old beard, shabby clothes and a lazy saunter catches our eye and makes us swoon with his oh-so-cool demeanour. What is it that gives guys the license to appear in public like that? Why can't we girls (or why DAREN'T we) step out of the house looking like dishrags and still hope for attention? Here's some possible answers.
Admit it... sometimes you see this really scruffy looking guy strolling past with a dirty hversack and well-worn shoes, and you think..."Wow, that's cool."
Isn't life unfair? We girls can never catch a decent guy's attention looking like we just got out of bed and stepped into town without a bath. In fact, we want to look presentable even when all we're doingis popping downstairs to buy newspaper. The excuse is, well, there's always the possibility of meeting someone you have a crush on and are hoping to impress. Or some people you don't want thinking you have no dress sense. Whatever it is, most of us definitely don't have the guts to appear in public in a shabby get-up. So why do guys do it? Do they care about their image at all, or is their appearance truly a reflection of who they are? Here's 8 reasons for their apparent indifference.
» Guys really believe they look good that way.
Believe it or not, it's really easy to convince a guy that he looks okay (whether or not it's true). As Jerry Seinfeld once said, a guy "Stands back about half a meter from the mirror, strike a manly pose, and believes he looks good. That's it. Every girl will look at him like that and think he's cool." How unlike us girls, who examine every inch of our bodies from all angles and corners before we can buy that little bit of confidence from a friend's observation. Sigh!
» Guys spend their money on other "cool" things on the latest gadget
Guys are not exaclt the most sought-after shoppers on this planet. That's one of the reasons why women's fashion and accessories are always more expensive than men's. They simply don't think it's worth spending this kind of money on clothes or grooming. The guys I know are more interested in intellectual items like sound equipment, car accessories and sports gear, to name a few. And you can be sure these are expensive and come in the latest models to tempt their pockets.
» Guys need someone to help them dress up
In other words, he's on the hunt for someone to "tame" him! The first thoughts that come across your mind are, "This guy's got potential," or "Does he know he could look much more appealingif he were cleaner?" You're tempted by the thought that he could look better with a wee bit of grooming... with your help, of course! It just make you want to go up to him and be THE ONE who changes his mindset and also his wardrobe. Yep, this kind og guy certainly brings out the motherly instinct in us!
» Guys look good slightly rugged
We're talking about the slightly ruffled hair, dopey-eyed smile and somehow imperfect appearance. This is one guy with whom you don't hve to worry about how he looks in the morning - it'shis premanent image! You've heard the saying - nothing's perfect. Besides, underneath that couldn't-care-less outlook could lie a sensitive, caring guy who'd rather focus his attention on you than on himself. Or he coul be the happy-go-lucky kind who takes everything easy. Either way, you just can't help but think he's adorable!
» Guys spend their money on their girlfriends
Aha, the real culprit! Lucky is the girl who gets her man to doll her up in the latest fashion, wearing the best accessory yet - him! He'd rather spend his last cent on your whim and fancy and look like scum himself, than let people say his girlfriend looks like seaweed. Or he's probably the one paying for all your dates. This guy is content simply gazing at the object of his admiration, regardless of what he himself looks like.
» Guys think it's what's in their brain that matters, not their apperance
Even after the passing phase of nerds has lost its appeal, we are left figuring out if there really are intelligent souls behind those scruffy facades. Soneone once said that a man who concentrate on what goes on in his mind never bothers what he looks like on the outside. Could this be the reason why some guys fancy themselves as intellectuals? Well we sure hope every other guy who looks like that does have a smart brain to make up for it!
» Guys are less fashion-conscious
What can a guy go out in? T-shirts, shirts, pants, bermudas and shoes about sums it up. (Guys can't certainly wear skirts and still expect to be able to hold their head high.) The latest trends usually come in just variations of the above categories in style, colour, or fabric. Let's add the accessories then. Caps, shades, earrings and bracelets are the ones more favoured these days. But if you look closely, guys usually have a few "staple" pieces of such accessories, unlike girls who must have them in the latest design or colour. Enough said!
» Guys just can't be bothered
Since they catch your attention looking like this anyway, then why bother with more? And frankly, guys don;t have as much of a choice as we do when it comes to fashion. We can wear both skirts and pants, but they unfortunately can't. We can paint our faces with the latest make-up colours, but they can't. We can look stylish with a short baircut, but they have to be really patient before they can claim the same with long hair. With so much to consider and their reputation at stake, it's no wonder they can't be bothered sometimes!
Well gals, what's the verdict? Should guys get away with looking like that when we spend so much effort dolling up to catch their eye? Or should we just forget about looking good for their sakes and learn to adopt their attitude? Can WE get away with it? Leave your comments about what YOU think.
