Before you start smirking and go, "Boys go only for one thing", hear what guys have to say for themselves.
A boy is able to enjoy mental intimacy too, which means the sharing of thoughts about life, and, above all, just being together with his favourite girl. In most cases, boys are in love with a particular girl because of her personality, and not merely her physical attributes. Yes, it's that simple: her winsome personality, a common outlook on life, and her attitude towards us. If boys like a girl only because of her looks, then it's not love, but an infatuation or a short-lived crush.
Tactics of Love Warfare
So what do bys really look for? Here are some award-winning moves that any self-respecting girl can make on a decent chap.
1. Say it like it is
For a start, boys want straightforward honesty. It's not a suggestion that girls like to tell lies, or are often caught lying. But there's no denying that girls tend not to come clean with their thoughts and feelings. And when the boys latch onto the wrong hint or interpret their feelings differently, get ready for a big argument of boys not being sensitive enough. To spare the boys from the tears and boggled minds, girls, drop those ambiguous hints and indirect ways of getting your thoughts and ideas across.
2. Comfort the weary heart
It's fun and good to be together when the going is swell, but be there for the boys when the times are bad too. Trust us, consolations are the ultimate heart-warmers. whenever some sort of emotional distress hits us, boys secretly hope for a "guardian angel" to appear and soothe those ruffled feathers, even if the boys put up a brave front. It doesn't have to involve car crashes or anything dramatic; even an unexpectedly poor grade in Chemistry or a scraped knee from rugby would qualify for some major comforting. We boys usually play the role of the "rescuer" in relationships, but we like being fussed over when the blues come a-knockin'.
3. Stay alert to the (very) rare hint
You may know one or two boys who do a lot of hinting stuff, ut most of us hardly ever do it. We like straight talkin' and it would probably take a giant crowbar to pry hints from your Average Joe. But that's not to say boys won't ever do it. We would, in our of our rare less-confident moments. Like when we're testing the waters to see if a girl will accept the first date. If she is able to pick up those hints and respond postively, it would be an incredible boost to our morale and beef up our confidence to ask her out
again.
4. Have a positive attitude
Who wants to date someone with as much life as a slab of limp, frozen fish? We might as well stay home, watch soccer on TV and eat a can of sardines. Most boys want to be with someone full of life and enthusiasm. When a boy you like calls you out, don't dither or pretend that you couldn't decide between washing your hair or going out with him. Showing little interest will often result in getting him "pissed off" or going away with the wrong idea that you don't dig him. And instead of waiting for him to ask you out every time, surprise him! Make the first move and take charge of the dating details, from the movie to watch right down to the place to eat. Your initiaitive says it loud and clear: that you enjoy his company enough to seek him out. Now which boy worth his salt would decline such a passionate girl?
5. Be committed
If you have agreed to go for a swim with Peter, don't cancel the date at the last minute just because John has two movie tickets to the latest Hollywood flick. Boys don't like flighty characters who promise what they can't deliver. So make plans and stick to them - unless World War III erupts.
So girls, don't get all worried if you're not shaped like Lara Croft or in possession of the face of Christina Aguilera. Because that's not what boys really want in a girlfriend. Instead, it's that priceless feeling of togetherness and companionship, which are the basic essentials of long-term love, that we're after.
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