Is she smiling at you, or is it just a twitch of the mouth? We know how embarrassing it is if we interpret the signs wrongly and hit on the wrong girl. To ensure that you never get into such a horrid experience, Issues For Girls & Boys teaches you to spot the signs that scream she's interested in you.
"What must I do to get him to make a move?
I know he likes me, and I've done practically everything under the sun to express my interest, except throwing myself at his feet. Some men are plain stupid!" lamented a female friend over coffee one afternoon. I have the utmost sympathy for my frustrated friend, but I beg to differ on her last statement. Generally, guys are not stupid, although some may not be equipped with the necessary "arsenal" to interpret expressions of interest from the opposite sex. So to help my male friends in love, I got all my female friends to give us the low-down on the Big Six that guys should memorise.
Tress Caresses
Most girls would rather stay at home for the whole day than go out on a bad-hair day. That's why they do not mind spending hundreds of dollars getting that hair-do right. They love their locks, and they want you to notice it too. Touching her hair is definitely the most frequently displayed sign that a girl is flirting with you. By definition, touching could range from the gentlest hair-flip to the most sensual hair-twirl.
Zooming In
That cute girl sitting over at the corner seems to be looking at you. But then, she could be just scanning the room. How to tell the difference? If you "catch" her zooming at you an awful lot of times and then looking away, it may just be your lucky day.
Million-Dollar Smile
My mum used to say that if you smile at a person, it is very likely that the smile will be returned. So if you happen to notice a girl smiling at you, please do not be alarmed. Smiling is the most common display of friendliness and self-confidence. A smile relaxes your facial muscles and says, "Hi. I'm harmless. What about you?" And it is a highly attractive feature. Why do you think models in advertisements smile all the time? But be warned: flirtatious girls often enjoy smiling unrestrainedly at everybody and everything in sight.
Her Friends Look Too
Say you are just minding your own business when suddenly, a group of girls make it obvious that they are eyeing you and smiling. Barring the possibility that you have egg on your shirt, it may indicate that one of them likes you. Many girls are cautious creatures who enjoy seeking a second or third opinion from their pals, so that they can help her to check him out. So she could be hiding in the group, waiting to hear what her friends think of you. So what's s guy supposed to do? Be cool and beam back. Then watch for the one who returns your smile. If more than one of them does that, why, you lucky chap!
Eye Interlock
The eyes are the windows of the soul. If you get to chitchat with her, pay attention to her eyes. Does she maintain eye contact? An interested party will not be afraid to hold your gaze. And when she enjoys your jokes, her eyes will curl and squint slightly during laughter. Check for sparkles in her eyes. Their presence suggests that you are on the right track.
Body Check
No, I don't mean that kind of body check. Watch for body language when you are together. If she is talking with her arms crossed, she might be unsure of the situation and wants to protect herself. When she leans towards you in a relaxed manner or tilts her head, she is showing interest in what you are saying and demonstrating her ease at being around you. Sometimes, she may blush when you tease or lavish praises on her. Also look our for friendly gestures which reveal wrists and palms and le-crossing. Some girls may even touch you to express their liking in a big way!
What To Do When You Get Rebuffed
Despite your best efforts at reading her signals, do not rule out the chance that you might misinterpret her friendliness as being romantic interest. There was a time when a guy friend wistfully thought he had spotted all the right signs and forge ahead to ask his dream girl out to the beach. He was rejected! Still, it was not the end of the world; he lived to fight another day. Rejections are bitter pills to swallow, and it is easy to walk away with our tails between our legs and vow never to lose our hearts again. Don't! Just treat it as an ant biting on your arm and fling it away. The girls may have their reasons for turning you down, which have nothing to do with your looks or the size of your wallet. The pot of gold is still at the end of the rainbow; it only takes more effort to find it.
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