Don't wreck your dream date with careless words and deeds. Get this guide to what he or she wants, and it'll be a "no-sweat" date for you
I'm sorry, but I need to wash my hair..." "Sorry, I'm going to the zoo with my brother..." Enough of lame excuses! It doesn't take a rocket scientist to know that the hottie you want to date already has squeaky clean hair. And since when was there a younger brother? But after many tries, you get a "yes". And there's no way you are going to spoil it by saying or doing something stupid.
The Guys' Guide To What She Wants
Contrary to popular belief, girls aren't necessarily attracted to macho guys rippling with muscles and those who act cooler than they really are. Girls would rather accept a gentlemanly guy over all the Stallone wannabes anytime. And the moment you see a girl all dressed up for the date, tell her she looks nice. She had probably spent an hour in front of her cupboard choosing her outfit, plus another hour doing her nails and hair. But don't overdo the flattery, or it'll seem fake. If she's carrying something other than her handbag, offer to help her with the load. And when you approach a door, remember your manners and hold it open for her. In the past, the only guys who could get away with not opening doors for their dates were cavemen (because they didn't have doors). When crossing the road, stand on the side that faces the oncoming traffic. It adds a sense of security for her, knowing that it will not be her who'd get flattened like a pancake in the event of any accident.
When out in town, keep your eyes from straying. Don't stare at other girls, even if it is just the Pussycat Dolls on a poster. Your date might get jealous easily. Always give her your fullest attention by talking and listening to her attentively. This will also pay off when you need to get her a gift. Notice what she looks at when out shopping and ask her why she likes it. If she is drooling over a blue Swatch watch, it might be because of the color, not the brand. But if what catches her eye is a Rolex watch dripping with diamonds, think of ways to end the date quickly! No matter how tempted you are to check for incoming SMS, turn your handphone off. You wouldn't want it to ring just when things are heating up. When the bill comes, assume that you are paying for the meal, unless she offers to go dutch. And at the end of the evening, thank her for a wonderful time. Yes, I am serious about this. Manners hold an important place among adolescents, even in this day and age.
The Gals' Guide To What He Wants
Ok. So we've covered the guys. But what do the guys expect of the girl? Many gals harbour unworkable notions of what's attractive to guys, so it's high time we set the record straight.If you think that acting bored and nonchalant is THE way to "hook" a guy, forget it. The number one thing you shouldn't do is to act like you're not interested in him. If you show absolutely no enthusiasm during the date, he is likely to conclude that his time would be better spent watching his pet goldfish snore. So, show some appreciation for your date's efforts to please you. Even if you don't like the chocolates he gave you (you just started your diet!), thank him for the gift. You never know how much thought went into the present. And it helps to settle the poor guy's jittery nerves as well, knowing that you like the present.
When he asks you where you would like to go for dinner, be frank and decisive. "Up to you, darling" and "Anything is fine" aren't names of restaurants, as far as anybody knows. At the end of the meal, offer to pay for your share, unless you know for sure that your date is related to the King (or Queen) of England. Although most guys would graciously pay for their date's meal, don't assume that they are in the best of financial conditions. And if you are feeling generous, you could give him a treat instead. In times of trouble, be an angel and comfort him. A simple "Are you all right?" is very effective, if you don't know what else to say. Offer him your shoulder to cry on, if you can (Hey, guys have a soft side too). It'll be one of the sweetest thiings you can do for a guy.
On special occasions or birthdays, remember to get him a gift. Opt for something practical please, and not some white elephant. The gift should match his character. Is he sporty or is he a technical geek? You won't want to give a sports fanatic a romance novel. You could make his present by hand (sure to melt his heart). Still, the most important thing is to be sincere about it. Now, for the most mind-boggling part of the date. WHAT TO WEAR??!! Though slimpy black tops are alluring, your date may not be the only one appreciating your choice of clothes (watch out for perverts!). And you could also be sending out th wrong signals to your date; he may not think of you as the self-respecting, decent girl that you truly are. The foolproof fashion get-up? Clothes that you are comfortable om, that are not torn or stained, and that do not make you look like his older sister either.
Finally, be yourself. Your date didn't ask you out because you are the coolest girl on the face of this planet. He asked you out because you are you!
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